A lot of people tell me 'I don't know how you cope with two girls' or something across those lines anyway. Yes it is hard, and those who say it isn't - then i'm sorry but you are lying! (haha). The only times that are hard are when they're arguing and fighting and obviously going through phases such as not listening and trying to push your buttons etc! We've all been there haven't we?
When I was pregnant with Elliw I did think a few times 'how could I share my love?' All my love was to Mia and I couldn't think how I could share it and I could love another child as much as I loved Mia. The minute I held Elliw, my love was shared! It was such a nice feeling to have.
We did find buying things for them got a lot more expensive especially when Mia started her toilet problem and when Elliw started on food. We tried our best to budget, and still do. I have found I don't 'treat' Mia as much anymore, such as getting her a nice toy as now I would have to treat two! However I do it once in a while but otherwise their treat in the week is just a small sweet/chocolate or a cake from the shop on the way home from school.
The sleepless nights were hard, especially that it took Elliw around 7-8 months to sleep full night. She then went through a phase every few weeks where she would wake up quite a few times in the night, and it would last for 1-2 months, it still happens now! Mia recently takes quite a while settle to bed and Elliw has always taken a while to settle but we're so used to it now.
Were all busy every day now with Mia going school every day and Elliw in Playschool twice a week and nursery twice a week whilst I work.
When times are hard, then they are hard! There is a lot of arguing every single day. Elliw has been in a very long phase (over a year in fact) of hitting and its been getting worse! She will hit, punch, bite, kick and pull Mia's hair! And yes you can guess, Mia screams! Which I don't blame her! That's where the naughty step comes in handy. That is used daily in this house and im glad! I couldn't cope without it. It is nice to have a break whilst Mia is in school but its Elliw that is the most hard work I find. But we live! And I wouldn't change them for the world!
Do you have two or more children? How do you cope?
* More on this subject to come in the next few weeks/months.