Are Phones Affecting Our Relationship?


Whether you are parents or not, it is always nice to go away with your partner for a long weekend break or a nigh away break somewhere. It is the time where you can both relax, enjoy eachtother's company and a chance to bond together too. Well, it should be. There is one thing that comes in between most relationship these days and that is a mobile phone. We all have one and most of us use it daily. But should we really use it whilst on a break with our loved ones?


Me and my partner try and go for a break away at least once a year and I am one of those who will happily put my phone down for a good few hours but I can also sit down and play on my phone for hours too, especially on social media with my blog. Looking back at our breaks I do remember us both sitting in bed and just playing on our phones. Was there any need for that? Not really. We could of spent that time doing other things.

Durex have researched couples going on holiday and how tech has affected relationships whilst away. They have also done a video which you can view here. When couples go on holiday there is one thing that every couple expects on the night in the hotel and that is, sex. In the research that Durex did, 52% expect better sex whilst away with their partner. But with being on phones for hours, is that possible? 41% of people admitted that nights on holiday with their partner can be spent on separate phones in the same bed. Which to me is quite shocking. It's a shame that phones can really get in between couples bonding and expressing their feelings. Whilst 41% of people expect better sex whilst they are away, 60% of them admitted that the reality did not meet those expectations. One big turn off and let down in a hotel room on a break away is when you are both in bed and one of you is just playing on the phone, giving no attention to the other person. 40% of people are less likely to instigate sex if their partner is on their phone in bed. 

57% of people say they would be more turned on if they knew their partner had turned their phone off to focus on their partners for the evening. When you have no technology such as phones, laptops, iPad's and so on, you do concentrate more on eachother and that is how it should be for all couples. I do believe everyone needs a phone on them, but you could easily switch Wi-Fi off and put it on silence and then only use the phone for emergencies. Other than that, no one really needs a phone. No one needs to update their social media sites by checking themselves in a fancy restaurant or posting photos in Instagram. Think of the communication you are loosing with your loved one.

I personally think a lot of stress and arguments in relationships these days are caused by using a phone. Having no phone is a time to bond, catch up on eachother's weeks and talk about your interests to one another. It can also be a way re lighting that spark between you both. There are a few ways you could go without your phones:

Switching notifications off: By doing this your phone won't be beeping or vibrating each time some tries texting, calling or conacting you on social media. This will get you off the phone and checking your phone less and less.

Leave your phone in the hotel room: There is no harm in leaving your phone in the hotel room. You don't really need it everywhere that you go. 

Put it on silence: The same as switching notifications off, putting your phone on silence will help you by not looking at your phone so often. 

What do you think about using phones whilst you're on a break with your partner? 

31 comments

  1. As a full-time working couple who spends most of their time in office and corporate world, My partner and I hardly get opportunity to go out..But when we do get it, we try to make best out of it..I do not like to check my phone while i am away with my partner...We may click couple of pictures together, but we make sure none of us is totally into their phone..

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  2. i think they can totally ruin things. It seems we are a little more bothered about what is happening with our friends online than talking to our actual partner in real life. Switching off notifications is such a great idea x

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  3. Sadly we haven't been on a break since having our daughter but when we went on holiday as a family last May I refrained from using my phone as its memories we're meant to be making x

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  4. I think that phones and other devices such as tablets do affect relationships. I know I need to spend more time with my husband when our son is in bed but I find I just want to relax and use my tab to watch programmes on Netflix. We've started to make an effort to do stuff together instead such as watching a movie together or pkaying games on the Wii.

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  5. I think you are right, they do affect relationships if people let them. I admit that I do go on my phone in bed but that's usually once my husband is asleep x

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  6. I definitely see your point. For me, my phone gives me direct access to social media ALL the time and it means that I am forever surrounded by images of people having fun. Social media is something my mental health has always been affected by

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  7. I see people on their phones in restaurants and I think unless it is urgent it's rude to sit there on the phone when you are with others.

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  8. I think it's so rude to go out for a meal together and then spend the night on their phones. I see it all the time :(

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  9. Both myself and my husband always have our phones on us, and if we are out he usually has his out and takes photos and shares on his social media (which I will steal and share later lol). I do check my phone in case our Daughter needs us or is having problems. But we do also put our phones away and enjoy each others company

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  10. Hmm I do think it can cause issues HOWEVER we are both always on our phones and it doesn't for us with "balance" - like you mentioned the hotel room, if we went away the phones would be put aside. Maybe for in the bathroom, or while we watch TV and cuddle, but not while we're out and we NEVER have phones out on a date night! H x

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  11. I think it can cause problems if are not both on the same page. We both like to be on our tablets, phones etc in the evening. My husband winds down by reading what interests him and I blog. But, when we go to bed and if we ever did have a night away we wouldn't have our phones. On date nights, the phones are only there for my parents to phone for emergency with the kids x

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  12. I always try and leave my phone behind when I am with boo and just spend time with us

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  13. I do think it can to an extent, particularly if you are on a date night and all you guys do is spend all night on the phone.

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  14. Hmm, I must admit since I've been blogging, I am glued to my phone! We haven't been on a break for ages, but I think it would be nice to leave our phones and just use them to take photos of us on our break, yeah I like that idea :-)
    Sabrina xx

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  15. This does make a lot of sense. Having to be connected constantly can be frustrating and distracting.

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  16. I think we do spend far too long on our phones and it probably is affecting relationships. I find it odd that couples would go away buts spend so much time on their phones x

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  17. It's a catch 22, as we tend to take a few holidays a year and work a few hours each day around the pool. The perks of being self-employed at times

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  18. I really think that it can ruin things. We have a couple of nights a week as date night and there are no phones allowed.

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  19. I think everyone is on their phones too much (me included) but I try to make an effort to take a break from it x

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  20. I am terrible for being on my phone too much, worse so if I have it on silent x

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  21. Oh yes they are. I am always with mine. So bad.

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  22. Me and the other half always have our phones around but to be honest if we are doing something together we don't often check them, it's not a conscious thing we just seem to lave them alone more, than say if we were just sat around at home.

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  23. I'm using my phone less and less these days and enjoying the moment. i do see couples on their phones a lot when i go eat out

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  24. Whenever my husband and I have a night in together and watch a film or something, we always have a no phones rule. It makes it so much more enjoyable.

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  25. When my husband and I Wath a film he says he know I'm really into the film because I don't touch my phone! I do go on it a lot!

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  26. I really hate phones gettin in the way of my day, friendships and relationship but its so hard when I work in social media. Now I use the Do Not Disturb feature on my phone which I find very helpful xxx

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  27. I'm trying to implement a no phone rule. It's incredible how they suck you in.

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  28. It can but the key is proper communication as there are instances that phones hold an essentail tools for work. We set moments to have free from phones and it should be strictly followed. :)

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  29. I know how much difference it makes to our conversation when we put our phones away - Just very difficult with ageing parents and 3 children not to be on call at all times!

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  30. I am a social media addict so my phone is on all the time but I do try are turn it off on a date night :-)

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  31. Phones definitely affect relationships. Infact, all technology does. My partner and I have evenings where we just sit and talk, go for a nice walk and ban all technology. It's definitely made our relationship stronger.

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