tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post5454631757311239728..comments2024-03-04T17:13:27.479+00:00Comments on Beth Owen: Why I Don't Want My Girls Going To Secondary SchoolLife-As-Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05077958857084535843noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-50733531338903199732016-01-15T22:10:19.361+00:002016-01-15T22:10:19.361+00:00Oh hunny, that is so awful. I cant believe you had...Oh hunny, that is so awful. I cant believe you had such an awful experience at school. I cant believe that children can be allowed to get away with such things. I was genuinely shocked to read some of the things that you experienced, and even more by the fact that in some instances nothing happened to reprimand these children. Its hard because we cant protect our children from everything. But I guess what you can do is talk to your children about bullying etc and help them to feel like they can tell you anything. Hopefully they will both have lovely, happy experiences when they go to secondary school. Either way, you'll be there for them whenever they need you. Emily x #MarvMondaysMy Petit Canardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03202557236023640036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-28895561890191884612016-01-15T12:43:19.020+00:002016-01-15T12:43:19.020+00:00I, too was bullied through secondary school. Throu...I, too was bullied through secondary school. Through juniors too, actually. Including the bullies, who lived on my street, standing in my back garden shouting abuse up at me when I was sat crying in the bath. I keep meaning to blog about it-but it's a scary thought to bring it all flooding back, if I'm honest.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01808350026373364809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-78877041042793361242016-01-13T17:46:48.366+00:002016-01-13T17:46:48.366+00:00It must be scary worrying about your children havi...It must be scary worrying about your children having a good time at secondary school. I think everyone goes through good and bad times during this time but hey, we wouldn't grow up without it :)Kaciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06389803367302038395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-30345003670477547472016-01-13T08:29:37.678+00:002016-01-13T08:29:37.678+00:00I am sorry to hear that you had such a terrible ti...I am sorry to hear that you had such a terrible time at school. I know it is hard to see, but those experiences will have made you a stronger and better person. I was bullied terribly at school and even at university too. It does leave you feeling awful and stays with you into adult life. But because you had such a terrible time at school does not mean your girls will. There are so many cruel things in this life that we wish we could protect our children from. But we can't. Unless we lock them in a tower, like Rapunzel. We just have to educate them as well as we can and let them know we love them and that they can always talk to us no matter what. Hugs Lucy xxxxLucy Howardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010444596222748813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-65767574565217440002016-01-12T21:35:43.555+00:002016-01-12T21:35:43.555+00:00It's only natural for you to worry about your ...It's only natural for you to worry about your girls going to secondary school when you had such traumatic school years. I was bullied all the way through secondary school to the point where I eventually stopped turning up. What you have to remember is that those were YOUR experiences and it doesn't mean that your girls will experience the same things. There's the potential that their school years may be some of the happiest in their life.<br /><br />Jenna at <a href="http://www.tinyfootsteps.co.uk/" rel="nofollow">Tinyfootsteps</a> xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07644950042796846374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-18084323827350080432016-01-12T16:01:09.637+00:002016-01-12T16:01:09.637+00:00I'm sorry you had such a dreadful experience o...I'm sorry you had such a dreadful experience of secondary school, perhaps your very awareness of how difficult it can be will allow you to spot any problems that might develop when your girls are old enough for secondary school and you can make sure bullying is nipped in the bud. Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02698271200291472231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-53381539212641818392016-01-12T14:10:10.900+00:002016-01-12T14:10:10.900+00:00So sorry you had such a bad experience. So sorry you had such a bad experience. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10775456309221173884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-64645387494051322822016-01-12T13:58:46.792+00:002016-01-12T13:58:46.792+00:00Awww no wonder you have concerns given your experi...Awww no wonder you have concerns given your experience. I think that teachers are more tuned into spotting bullying behaviour these days and so hopefully they won't have the same problems you did. It is social media bullying that scares me. xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14665604379128385235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-30031564601767945772016-01-12T13:58:29.651+00:002016-01-12T13:58:29.651+00:00I don't know anyone who had a good time at sch...I don't know anyone who had a good time at school. I was bullied for years and as a result had no friends till about year 9. However, it wouldn't stop me from sending my child to a school. Although it wasn't fun, it definitely made me into the strong and fierce woman I am today. Catstellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17321689882466326859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-17905701511858778202016-01-12T11:18:52.719+00:002016-01-12T11:18:52.719+00:00I am so sorry you were bullied and had a horrible ...I am so sorry you were bullied and had a horrible time! My daughter has just started a very small primary school and already I am worried about her adjusting when she goes to a large secondary school. xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14136322393511867256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-90337184642986123322016-01-12T10:30:21.598+00:002016-01-12T10:30:21.598+00:00I am so sorry you had such a bad time at school. I...I am so sorry you had such a bad time at school. I can totally understand your worries hunnie, but I think given what you went through, you are best placed, should it happen to your two, to help them xbeautyqueenukhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17999507823528783542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-77885248831046481512016-01-12T07:11:21.656+00:002016-01-12T07:11:21.656+00:00This makes me angry. Secondary school is when thin...This makes me angry. Secondary school is when things get serious. Primary school all the kids are so innocent and generally lovely, but secondary school hormones get involved and telly. I too am worried about my eldest going to secondary school because I know this is when others will see her differently (she has learning difficulties)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16513229337190307371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-5049218403007457922016-01-12T06:44:03.781+00:002016-01-12T06:44:03.781+00:00The education system has changed a lot since we we...The education system has changed a lot since we were in high school, so I think things aren't tolerated as much as they might have been back then by teachers, etc. I wouldn't worry - just teach your girls to be strong, independent women who stand up for their values and all will be well. So sorry you had a bad experience yourself. :(Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17197556054093657063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-39720512150374511172016-01-12T05:09:50.111+00:002016-01-12T05:09:50.111+00:00I'm so sorry you had such a terrible time in H...I'm so sorry you had such a terrible time in High school. It seems that no matter what generation we are in the stuff still continues to happen. I always find girls arw worse than boys. It must be a jealousy thing. All you can do is teach your children to be self confident, happy and how to deal with these types of things if they happen xxKerry Louise Norrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15709656289177743532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-61698255727458824092016-01-12T03:21:43.823+00:002016-01-12T03:21:43.823+00:00I had a shaky time in secondary too. I've got ...I had a shaky time in secondary too. I've got my fingers crossed that my tot will cope with it better than I did. I think all kids probably get picked on to a degree but react differently. I took it all very personally. It did prepare me quite well for entering the workforce though as I am better equipped to deal with unpleasant adults now.<br /><br />Thanks again for linking up to #fartglitter.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02705879580506892159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-18205877502956644542016-01-11T23:38:40.762+00:002016-01-11T23:38:40.762+00:00I was bullied badly at secondary school and I too ...I was bullied badly at secondary school and I too had worries when my own children started there - but my eldest is 17 now so has left school and is in college and I have 2 who are at secondary school but both have amazing friends so I am very lucky Emma White https://www.blogger.com/profile/17268471720577751497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-10819798203861030822016-01-11T23:09:15.207+00:002016-01-11T23:09:15.207+00:00I worry about my daughter going to high school too...I worry about my daughter going to high school too and I'd love to home school her in the future when she is older if get well enough. I know I could do it as a teacher. I totally get your reasons and am sorry your high school experience was not good. Angela Milneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14710607899536687736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-27719992519737870862016-01-11T22:35:35.976+00:002016-01-11T22:35:35.976+00:00These sound like really tough experiences and I ca...These sound like really tough experiences and I can completely see where you're coming from - it must worry you a lot that your children might go through something similar. It's sad but there are bullies everywhere who will pick up on anything, regardless of how perfect or imperfect someone is xxLouisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17922983735305927345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-16035805671599064002016-01-11T22:32:01.778+00:002016-01-11T22:32:01.778+00:00It's sad that bullying happen as often as it d...It's sad that bullying happen as often as it does. Bullying is horrible. I hope your children don't suffer like you did. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376848506148152042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-44297301517128675512016-01-11T22:09:56.347+00:002016-01-11T22:09:56.347+00:00I'm sorry to read your experience of secondary...I'm sorry to read your experience of secondary school. I was bullied too. I moved to a "better" school by my mum but it was a downward spiral of days, weeks, months of just... Me losing myself more and more.. My confidence shot down and if I'm honest never really recovered so I can understand your worry. <br />Especially nowadays... The youth today seem so much more... Scary than when I was that age. Any authority that we feared at that age has been taken away- parents are limited on discipline, teachers are limited, the words "I'll sue" are threatened and feared... you hear of kids tempers and the things they carry around that can damage someone... And it's scary.... <br />But I know there must be the other side. It's where your social skills are learnt, close life friends can be made... <br />Have you looked into alternatives? Or checked out schools with bullying policies etc. I know they're young but maybe homework time for you could start to try putting your mind at ease? <br />I'm sorry you had to go thru it. I know what you mean about the bully not even thinking about how they affected you... I can't understand how they can't see... Was like that with me too.. <br /><br />And as much as you want to protect them... Wrap them too tightly and it could make it worse... It's a tough one. You're in my thoughts xxx<br />Claire<br />XxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05176280564662168029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-19440698216945855972016-01-11T21:01:28.647+00:002016-01-11T21:01:28.647+00:00Oh my goodness - this is horrendous, I am so sorry...Oh my goodness - this is horrendous, I am so sorry. this is also my biggest fear for my children. I literally touch wood when I say that I am thankful they have been / are ok in secondary school. Kaz xIckle Picklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14656235896074454820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-88622274165828743142016-01-11T16:43:12.472+00:002016-01-11T16:43:12.472+00:00Sorry you had those terrible experiences, I hope y...Sorry you had those terrible experiences, I hope your children don't have to suffer the way you did, bullying is horrible :( <br />Just ensure they have high self-esteem and hopefully they will be okay. My Mummy's Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05262607913520703564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-26535364878301908412016-01-11T14:48:47.585+00:002016-01-11T14:48:47.585+00:00I am so sorry that you have been through so much h...I am so sorry that you have been through so much hun, I hope that your children don't suffer like you did. I was bullied too and it is a fate that I wish I could stop anyone from going through xx Ana De-Jesushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12165853767093531146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-1512918938420547182016-01-11T14:41:18.796+00:002016-01-11T14:41:18.796+00:00I am sorry to hear you had bad experiences. All yo...I am sorry to hear you had bad experiences. All you can do is make sure that your children have high self-esteem. To know that it is the bully with the problem.PinkOddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13660212941529518937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3784725009975027840.post-85900320102118139912016-01-11T14:33:03.022+00:002016-01-11T14:33:03.022+00:00I am sorry school was so terrible for you. Kids ca...I am sorry school was so terrible for you. Kids can be so mean. Sometimes they just do it to 'fit in'. But the trauma it causes to the person on the receiving end can last a lifetime.Vaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15082974379301225614noreply@blogger.com