16 and Pregnant


I was in college. Half way through my childcare course. I met someone through college, fell for him, he played me. But I won't go into much detail about that. Roughly 3 months before my course finished, I fell pregnant. I walked to Tesco with my friend to buy a pregnancy test because I was 7 days late of my period, we walked back to my house and I took the test. I remember the day like it was yesterday. I did what you have to do (pee on a stick!) and looked at the test quickly and couldn't see a line so I kept it flat on the side. I stood up, picked the test up and the line was there.

I was pregnant.

I walked back into my bedroom, looked at my friend and told her as I burst into tears. I was scared. I was petrified. First thing to do was to phone the Dad of the baby. He didn't believe me. He laughed. In the end I think he did believe me because about 1-2 weeks before I took the test, I was feeling ill with stomach cramps. I told him and he had a feeling I was pregnant.


About a week before I found out I was pregnant, I found out that the Dad of the baby started a new relationship. So when I found out I was pregnant, I knew I was going at it alone. He hurt me. He used me. I won't say more.

I told my Dad's partner at the time. I went to my work experience the day after which was in someone's house {child-minding} and my Dad knocked for me. He had booked an appointment at the Doctors for me. I felt sick. I knew he was disappointed, he told me he was. Doctors confirmed I was pregnant and told me I was roughly 7 weeks and I would need to book an appointment with the midwife. So I did. On our way back home, my dad and I started crying. Like I said above, I was petrified. Of course, he asked what was I going to do with it. I was young but my age didn't change my mind. I was keeping the baby.

That is when it all went wrong. College wasn't much fun in the last 3 months. His friends calling me selfish because I wouldn't go for an abortion. One of them phoning my Mother telling her I am pregnant and again, calling me selfish for not getting rid. I hadn't even told my Mother yet that I was pregnant. If you follow my blog you may have realised I don't have a good or close relationship wit her.

All I had through my pregnancy was stress. The baby's Dad didn't want his girlfriend or anyone else to know he was the Dad. I didn't listen to him. I wasn't making myself out to be some sl*g. He begged me for an abortion, more than one. Said he would be there for me if I got rid. He would take me there and be there for me. Did it change my mind? No.

My first scan appointment was coming up. I started a small job in a local after school club. I fainted within my first hour. Luckily, my scan was only 2 days after. The hospital told me not to worry too much as it was probably low iron. Babys Dad promised he would be at the first scan. He didn't. My Dad came with me to my first scan. I will never forget how nervous I was. I had no idea what was going to happen. I lied down and they put the cold gel on my stomach. I looked up and my baby was on the screen. I was amazed. I fell in love. I was proud of myself that I did not listen to all those horrible people who told me to abort. I was happy. But still, at the back of my mind I was scared.

At 17 weeks I was sitting in my Dads chair in the living room. I felt an odd movement in my belly. I kept feeling it. It was baby moving. I was so happy.


Baby's Dad even promised he would be at the second scan. He wasn't. He was with his girlfriend instead. I did find it hard that they were together. Not because I wanted him but because he was choosing his girlfriend over his own unborn baby. My Dad came to my second scan again, that is when I found out I was having a baby girl. I was over the moon. My Dad took me to a place called Conwy and bought the baby her first baby grow, with the words 'Welsh Baby/Babi Cymraeg'.

The baby's Dad started denying his own baby. His friends were saying he wasn't the Dad. I argued so much through my pregnancy. I was fed up of being made out like the bad one. If he had only stepped up, grown up and provide for his unborn baby then things would have been a lot calmer and a lot less stressful. He even told me he would smash mine and baby's face in if I didn't stop arguing with his girlfriend. I was 20 weeks pregnant. I felt sick. Why did I still try and get him involved? I knew he wouldn't do such a thing and he was just acting all 'hard' infront of his friend who was driving.

I remember sitting on my bed, holding my bump and crying. I remember talking to myself {sad I know}. apologizing to baby that I was letting her into this world to a single parent. Promising her that I will try my best to be the best mother ever to her.

Baby's Dad did nothing through the pregnancy. Absolutely nothing. My Dad helped me through the whole 9 months {and after} of pregnancy. I had Obstetric Cholestasis in the last 10 weeks of my pregnancy. When I was roughly 38 weeks pregnant my own Mother started arguing with me calling me a silly b*tch for not wanting her in the labour room. I wanted my Dad and she was jealous. She doesn't know me properly, I don't know her properly. I don't feel comfortable around her, she has never been there for me so why would I want her there in the same room when I am giving birth? After the amount of stress she put me through, the day after I had my normal appointment at hospital and my blood pressure was extremely high. I had pre-eclampsia. The next morning I was induced.

My Dad phoned the baby's Dad to tell him that I was getting induced. He said he wasn't coming because he had a rugby game. My Dad was my birthing partner. You can read my labour story and my life as a single mother soon.

Being 16 and pregnant was nerve-racking. All my friends were going out like normal and I was home and learning to grow up quickly. I had people judging me. Plenty of stares and names but it's made me who I am today. I have grown up and I honestly wouldn't change it for the world.

30 comments

  1. Wow this is such a touching story. I am so sorry that you had to go through all this at such a young age. By the sounds of it you have a strong support in your dad and will continue to do so. xxx

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    1. Thank you lovely. I look back and I get quite sad on how I really didn't enjoy my pregnancy because of all the stress and nerves. My Dad is amazing. Thanks so much reading xx

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  2. This is a little heartbreaking to read :( I can't imagine how you must have felt. Xxxx

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  3. This is really hearbreaking to read, but at the same time you sound incredibly strong! Your dad sounds amazing, and I am so glad you had the support of him. xx

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  4. Thank god your dad was as supportive as he was. What an amazing role model.
    It sucks that you had to go through all of that. I shall look forward to the birth story. x

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  5. Brilliant post - I'm not sure I would have been anywhere near mature enough to cope at 16! Love and hugs to you x

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  6. I'm so glad your dad was there for you. Thanks for sharing this personal post. Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

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  7. Your so brave. Your dad is the best dad for standing by you. #binkylinky xx

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  8. I'm glad your dad was so supportive, sounds like you have made some big and very sensible decisions for you and your baby. xx

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  9. This pulled at my heartstrings! You did the right thing and your dad is great for been so supportive. My bestfriend had twins at 16 and although i was there for her, i never understood how hard it must have been for her until i became a mum x

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  10. wow what a supportive dad! sounds like u have done an amazing job and I bet you are the best mother in the world xxx

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  11. I think you have been though so much and what fantastic dad you have great post thanks for linking to the Binkylinky

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  12. Your dad sounds amazing. Reading the crap you went through, makes me very angry, but you have coped amazingly and have two beautiful daughters. Thanks for sharing your story. #PicknMix

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  13. Gosh this brings back memories! My eldest was born a month before my 16th birthday. She's 17 now and taking her A levels, she'll be off to university next year. I remember all too well those early struggles but we have come out on top. Proof it can be done, well done to you x

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  14. What a journey you've been through, just shows life doesn't end when you have a baby, you know your own body xx #TwinklyTuesday

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  15. Oh my goodness! I am so happy you had your dad there to help you. You are one amazing woman to do something that many woman would not have been able to do it. I teared up at your post because I can sense how painful it was when there were so many people tearing you down. That little girl is all matters! Thank you for sharing! #TwinklyTuesday
    Kristen

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  16. oh momma, what a story. I can relate to being pregnant and the dad being a total douche and who was helping me? yup, my dad and his wife. My mom couldn't understand why I didn't want an abortion, thankfully she regretted thinking that afterwards. I wasn't 16, I was 19 but the feeling wasn't different. Actually I always remember one when my daughter was 6 months I went out with friends for the first time in forever and got to chatting to a girl in the club's bathroom, when we walked out together my baby's dad was standing outside (I hadnt see him in months) and I told the girl, "this is my baby's asshole father!" turns out she was his girlfriend and he hadn't told her he was a dad. jajajajaja wait, that's not all, years later when I met my now husband, he told me about a girlfriend he had for a little while and I met her, it was the SAME girl!!!
    I love your blog, keep up the honesty, mommas gotta stick together. Oh and m daughter doesn't have her father's last name at all. #twinklediaries

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  17. Your Dad sounds like an amazing man, and I'm glad he was there for you! Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix

    Stevie x

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  18. What an amazing dad you have! You were so brave to go through all of this, and I have no doubt you look back and it was all completely worth it! Well done for standing firm and well done to your dad for being the support you needed. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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  19. Similar happened to my friend when she was 16, I was the one with her when she took her test. I can remember how scared she was. Great that your dad was so supportive. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

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  20. I'm so glad you kept her! She's a beautiful life who needed you as her mom! Blessings from #EspressosofFaith via #ALittleRnR!

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  21. What a tough time that must have been. Glad your dad was there to support you, sounds like he'll be the great role model for your baby.

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  22. This is such a sad story, pregnancy should be an exciting and happy time. But all credit goes to for being strong and standing up for your baby. You should be proud of yourself. Not many women could be as strong as you!

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  23. What an amazing dad you have. I'm so sorry to hear you had such a tough time in your first pregnancy. #MMWBH

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  24. Ooh I'm looking forward to reading more of your story - it sounds like you've been on quite a journey! Do you read Life With Pink Princesses? She was a young mum toox #MyFavouritePost

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  25. Such a shame that so many people let you down, but it sounds like your dad was brilliant! The baby grow sounds so sweet. #MMWBH

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  26. This is a wonderful post and so inspiring for young girls to show that you don't have to go it alone. Oh and your Dad sounds amazing, what an absolute star supporting you through such a tough but amazing time in your life. Thanks for linking up such a wonderful post to the #bestandworst, I really enjoyed reading it. X

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  27. I really felt for you reading this. You should feel so proud of yourself and your little girl for coming through this. Thanks for linking up with #myfavouritepost

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  28. What an awful thing to have to deal with whilst you were pregnant. I am so glad that you had the support of your dad. He sounds like an amazing dad.

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  29. What a hard but compelling story to read. I can't wait to read more. What a strong fearless woman you are xx

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