Parenting is a huge challenge, it can go up or down and no day is the same. The early days fly by, and as they grow, there's always a new challenge to cope with. From tantrums to tears then to smiles and cuddles. Parenting is a hard challenge, but it's worth it. As much as we all love our kids, us, as parents still need to feel like 'us'. Feel like ourselves, and honestly, it's ok to be selfish sometimes. It's good for you to spend some time away from your child from time to time. Whether it's just popping to the shops or a trip to the cinema with your friend. You could even go to a cafe to have a hot cup of tea and cake, with no interruption (how nice would that be right now?).

If you are like me, I had a hard time separating from my third child. I think my main reason was that I was breastfeeding him and because he is my last child. I couldn't find the strength to let someone else look after him. If I did, then I would end up crying and missing him badly. I would want him back in my arms as soon as possible. I remember that first time my partner took him out for a walk. I was in tears. From then on, I struggled with letting anyone even hold my baby, never mind leaving him with people.

Eventually, as months went by, I started to struggle to balance family life and work life. If you follow me, then you may know that I work from home, as well as being a stay at home parent and my partner works 40+. Freddie was rubbish at sleeping during the day and night time for about a year. As each month went by, he was getting better, but at the time I just couldn't see the light at the end. I was struggling which made a huge impact on my relationship with my partner.

However, we decided in the end that we needed to spend more time together. I realised that I needed time to myself. Time to feel like myself, do things that I want to do and do things that make me feel a little bit 'free' from having a crying baby on my constantly or just never having time to do anything. Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining like I said above, I was attached to my son. I struggled a lot with separation anxiety.

After getting used to time on my own or spending the evening in the cinema or out for a meal with my partner, I started to really enjoy it. It was a time where my partner and I could bond all over again. Time for us to remember who we are before we had the kids, and just spend some quality time together. It can be hard to find a babysitter at times, especially finding someone you trust. Sitters - Childcare Agency offers some great and trustworthy babysitters to help you have some time to yourself to do what you want, whether it's a date, outing with a friend or even work. You're able to find some trustworthy sitters in your area that can babysit for hours that other childcare providers can't, as well as a reasonable price.

Having that time to yourself or time to spend with your partner or friends is so important. We all have to remember that we are more than just parents. Although we love our kids, a lot. We need some time out from time to time, and it's ok to ask a babysitter you trust, to look after your kids to have some time for yourself.

* This is a collaborative post with Sitters.
However, all words and opinion are entireley my own,

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