There are many young mums who do decide to choose men, alcohol, going out and the 'free life' after having their baby's but a lot of people need to understand that not all young Mums are like that. I know a few 'older' Mums who are like that. My Mother decided to choose an abusive man over me and my brother. She has chosen drugs, men and other things over her kids. She is now in her 40's and I know a lot more Mums that age who are the same too. So why is it just the young ones who get the bad words and judgement?
Having my first daughter 4 months after my 17th birthday didn't ruin my life. She didn't stop my life. I still managed to get pass my childcare course at college and I still managed to get a job when she was 5 months old. I don't have many friends but I rather a small group of trustworthy friends than a whole gang of friends. I don't get to go out often by myself but when I do, I sure do enjoy it! My baby hasn't stopped my life and she sure well hasn't ruined it either.
My daughter gave me a whole new life to live. I wouldn't of had that nursery job, I wouldn't of met my current partner and that means I wouldn't of had my life that I have now. I do sit down and think sometimes, how would my life be if I didn't fall pregnant at such a young age and I just can not imagine it. I am not ashamed at letting people know that I fell pregnant at 16. Why should I be ashamed? Age is just a number. Although many times I have felt like a complete failure and the worst Mum, I wouldn't change my life for the world.
Have you ever judged a young Mum? If so, why?